From sending out invites to helping choose the dress, you’ll be helping to make a lot of key decisions. There might be tears and tantrums along the way, but don’t worry – our top tips will ensure you’ll be the best bridesmaid a girl could ask for:
1) The bride is always right
If there’s one thing we’ve learned about weddings, it’s this.
Even if you don’t agree with some of her choices, just keep smiling and go with the flow. Bear this in mind when it comes to dress fittings: lemon satin might not be what you had in mind, but if the bride loves it, then grin & bear it – one day she’ll be able to repay the favour as you put her in a dress of your choice!!!
2) Keep calm and carry on
Planning can be stressful and you’ll be the first person the bride turns to when things get a little overwhelming. Help by taking on extra tasks, offering her a shoulder to cry on and a glass of wine. Whatever happens, remember to keep a cool head, and if she gets a little cranky, never take it personally. And be grateful that you’re not the one who has to live with her in the run up to the big day!
3) Organise and prioritise
‘Organisation’ will become your middle name during the run up to the wedding day. There’s a lot to plan, from helping send out invites, thank you cards, making favours, and of course, the biggy…… organising the Hen Party. Ideally, you’ll have a team of equally capable bridesmaids to help out, so don’t be afraid to delegate. Invest in good old-fashioned Filofax or at the very least, a wedding folder, and keep absolutely everything!
4) Expect the unexpected
Even the most meticulously-planned weddings can expect a few glitches along the way. Having a back-up plan is essential. Make sure you have an emergency kit on hand with all the essentials that you may need on the day: Make-up wipes, nail file, neutral lipgloss, tampax, needle & threads in the colours of the wedding gown and the Maids dresses, safety pins, small scissors, hairspray, headache tablets and perfume will ensure you’re ready to handle any ‘worst-case’ scenarios. Also make sure you have brollies in case of rain – we are in England after all.
5) Play nice girls
Happy bridesmaids equal a happy bride. The last thing she needs to worry about is squabbling maids! If you’re having trouble with a fellow bridesmaid, put aside differences and smile sweetly at your enemy. It’s not about you – it’s about the one in the big white dress.
6) Be available for all and any jobs!
Be the Hostess with the Mostess. You could be called upon for any jobs on the day: from handing out favours, showing guests to their seats, kicking off the dancing (after the newly wedded couple have done their first dance obviously), possibly keeping an eye on Uncle who’s had a tipple too many or Nan who’s dozed off. It’s been a long and exhausting day, but remember to keep smiling and offer help to anyone who needs it.
7) Enjoy yourself!
You’ve spent months planning and preparing, and helping your best girly pal prepared for the biggest adventure of her life – that as a married woman. Give yourself a pat on the back, kick off those shoes and hit the dance floor.